An accurate assessment of your own mate value can help prevent wasted energy and streamline your search towards potentially interested partners.
If you're not sure of how much you have to offer, taking a closer look could be worth it.
Do you know your value as a potential partner? Knowing how desirable others perceive you as a potential partner tends to be difficult, but agreeable women and sexually unrestricted men tend to be better at it (Back et al., 2011). With such personal investment comes risk, but being vulnerable and open is essential to fostering commitment and relationship stability. That can mean money-dates can be expensive-but also emotional investment and investments of time and energy. Are you really prepared to invest? Relationships that last require investment (Rusbult, 1980). This suggests that pursuing a short-term relationship as a way to find a long-term relationship isn't necessarily a good idea. In fact, whereas similar people tend to pair off for long-term relationships, opposites often attract for short-term flings (Amodio & Showers, 2005). We generally pursue short-term partners differently than we do long-term partners the desired characteristics are different, too (Regan et al., 2000). 
Do you know what you want? Are you looking for a hook-up or a spouse? Be honest with yourself and find ways to be consistent with your goal.
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